Why Do Young Women Fall In Love With Older Men?

Women and men contribute love in different ways. Women are more emotional so touching, saying I Love You, and doing things for us are acts of love. For example, cleaning up the dishes or cooking dinner is acts of love. For men they contribute love with respect and sex.

A good example is that women want men to say “I Love You”, however, if they do not tell us they love us then we fall apart. If we do not respect them, and love them then they start to become defensive. That is when the fighting will probably start.

An age difference of 7 - 15 years can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to. That’s because we don’t choose who we fall in love with, it simply happens.

Most women over 25 and single are already disappointed by men of their age, they are looking to find a mature man that can satisfy their needs. In most cases men reach their maturity level after the age of 30; therefore, most women are just wasting time with men under 30. Most women over 25 believe that older men won’t break their hearts the way younger men have done; they believe that an older man will have the commitment and the willingness required for a long-term relationship.

Age indicates maturity, and decision making ability, so older men are a better choice for a mate. Many young women say young men their same age don’t respect them, but older men do. Younger women enjoy having someone take care of them and are attracted to an older man’s accomplishments, economic stability and emotional maturity.

Younger women and older men are capable of sharing similar life views and goals, despite their age differences. Younger women and older men have no problem accepting each other’s friends. Younger men and older women share the same principles when it comes to family.

Age difference makes no difference, and can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to work at it. Younger women and older men don’t choose to fall in love with each other; it simply happens. Younger women who fall in love with older men have father issues that can sometimes border on the psychotic. Younger women say that older men make them feel special, give them everything they need, give them so much attention, make them feel wanted and needed, and make them feel like a queen.

Younger women usually prefer men who are financially stable, and in most cases the most financially secure men are older men who are established, and in a much better position to take care of a wife than young men. Older men are often more patient, and actually listen to what younger women have to say and respect her opinions–qualities younger women appreciate in older men.

Older men–unlike young men–know what they want in a relationship; they can entertain, wine and dine a young woman–court her the old-fashioned way. Older men know what they want out of life; they are not uncertain about themselves, as younger men sometimes can be and can help bolster a woman financially as well as bolster her self-esteem.

Older men are more experienced sexually and tend to have less of a sex drive, but many women find that the lovemaking with an older man is completely fulfilling to them, as older men are better at listening to the needs of a younger woman than a man their own age tends to be.

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30 Year Old Virgin

Of the total diversity of reasons why people remain virgin, sexologist emit five principal.

Traumatic childhood experiences (sexual harassment, violence). The strategy of avoidance, deputy conduct can not get into situations that can cause severe memory.

Idealization partner. Romantics sublimating the need for love and convert it to other experiences. They are waiting for a meeting with a man or woman of their dreams or remain true to first love.

Religious, cultural norms. In some traditions are required to keep virgin until the wedding, or even until his death.

Still unformed sexual identity. A man in his youth not absorbed the stereotypes of sexual behavior of their sex. This may be due, and not perceived homosexuality.

Low self-esteem. Man feels is not beautiful, stupid, unworthy of attention. Often this is the result of difficult relations with his mother - too power to interfere in all affairs, or indifferent, absent.

«When you sixteen, and you are a virgin, even touching. But in thirty-six it already looks ridiculous and indecent ». How many people have experienced such feelings known: no statistics, and hard on this issue expect candor. Nevertheless, many adults live remains virgin, and suffer from it as of anomalies, which no one can tell. «I am red, when I ask: Who are you on the horoscope - Virgo? I hate the expression of type «innocent lamb», «virgin jungle», and so on », - recognizes the 32-year-old Anna. Anna is protected by force of the Actor's imagination: «All I play the role of swagger virgins. No one knows the truth, but two friends with whom we are familiar from childhood ». For her deception - is saving, but necessary measure to avoid attracting attention, not excuses and did not answer the question: «Why?»

«Virginity adult in public opinion no longer looks like a virtue. It even saw a social failure: if you are successful, you need to be successful in everything », - comments sexologist, MD. «Sexual start before marriage is becoming commonplace. In this age of marriage increases - adds a gynecologist. - For 16-17-year-old boys and girls to have sexual relations today prestigious. Moreover, when a child of 20 years do not yet have a partner, parents worry: Is it all right? This change of manners - an additional problem for those who have never had sexual relations ».

In most cases, virgin does not serve either for or against virginity as such. But they always have any explanation: «too much work», «no desire», «no time» or «not yet met their love» ... «To live in harmony with one another, simply need to invent some explanation, a concept. - For example, their virginity man explains himself that he «fully Science», - and as if in confirmation of this clock sits in the library and the computer stops to chat with friends. This is an example of the so-called replacement behavior: when to achieve the desired too hard, we unconsciously switch to a different activity, thereby relieving the stress and anxiety ».

Up to a certain point for many of virginity is not a problem. Sometimes young people even claim the right to remain virgin until you meet lover. But for 30 years raises concern, followed by a can emerge and this phobia: «Can I?», «I Normal?» Man falls in circulation doubt that eventually could lead to the rejection of his body, fear of another body rights. By the 40-year-old point mental pain only increases. «Women virgin adulthood no longer wait for sexual relations. - Few said: «I want sex». They can not disturb the very possibility of infiltration into their body, they are afraid of pain. Rather, say: «I want children, home, family».

Most sexologist feel wrong to separate sex from other components of romantic relationships. «Often the problem is not sex: care of him, men and women unconsciously waive any close relations», - explains French sexologist Michele Saal. «Solid and reliable, these people do not believe in myself that constantly run down their questions:« So I do? »,« Is do? »- Continues sexologist. - It is easier simply to abandon relations, which continue to doubt and to experience ».

«It happened by itself - is recognized Anna. - I am heading psychotherapy, and now express their feelings more freely. What I think and helped me get to know this man. We both worked at the talks, then have supper together, there is some sympathy. He was married, and because the relationship could not continue. I first was able to talk about his virginity to a man. I shack up with him. Neither love talking about what was not, but it happened with great tenderness, it is easy ... nice. This first experience like I opened up, and now I feel normal, beautiful woman ».

Survey: Single Women Prefer to Marry 30-Year-Old Men

Men around 30 years old are more popular among single women than those at other age level, according to a survey conducted by Beijing Normal University, CCW Research and a friend-making Website Baihe.com, the Beijing Morning Post reported today.

The one-year survey was conducted from August, 2006 via street interviews, deep interviews and online questionnaires, covering more than two million people, the report said.

About 80 percent of the female respondents said men who are 30 or 31 were the best marriage partners.

About 65 percent of male respondents said women who are 25 years old would be ideal for marriage, while only 12.5 percent said they could accept women over the age of 35 as their wives, the survey said.

However, one-third of the female respondents said they were willing to marry a man over 35, and 15.2 percent could accept a man over 40, according to the survey.

Why do 35 year old men live with parents?

In my experience, barring adverse life events causing them to return, if they have never truly left it's because they are immature and you must run the other way!

I have just wasted 2 yrs with a 36 yr old who still sleeps in his childhood cabin bed, mummy does everything for him and yes he is the stereotypical star wars/lego/comics/war games nerd. I am 29 and independent, with several previous boyfriends. When I met him he was a 34yr old jobless virgin. He now has a job (within walking distance of mummy...) but only pays his mother 150GBP out of a 1300GBP take-home salary. He counts every penny too; very tight. She does everything - laundry, cooking, cleaning, shopping, bills, even makes his sandwiches for lunch every day.

This shining example of maturity split up with me by text a month ago while I was in a foreign country working for a few weeks. I had brought up the subject telling him how frustrated i was and how i wanted our relationship to move forward by getting engaged/moving in. He basically ended it by text and didn't even want to see me when i got back. two years in which we met each others families etc, last time i saw him was at the airport when i left for my assignment.

I was way out of his league and i wish i hadn't bothered. So when you ask me what I think of men over 30, indeed over 25, still at home my reply is - LOSER ALERT! RUN RUN! If there is no valid reason for him being there/no end in sight then you will never change him/persuade him to move out with you. I thought that. It won't happen - give up and walk away!

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